The effects of bullying could be different for the different people. For some, it makes them want to be swallowed by the earth. For others, they just don’t want to go to classes or work anymore. Getting sick almost every day is what others feel. Sadly, for some teens, the only way out is suicide. We are all aware how devastating the effects of bullying could be. It brings not only the scars and wounds from the physical bullying. More than that, it also brings a lasting wounded heart, family disintegration, health problems and a lot more.
To sum it all up, here are the known effects of bullying:
Short-term effects of bullying
- Anger Depression
- Significant rate of school absenteeism
- Significant drop from school efforts and performance
- Physical Illness
- Suicide, or what others coined as “bullycide,”
Long-term Effects of bullying
- Feelings of insecurity
- Lack of trust
- Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder
- Mental illness
Aside from those mentioned above, there are also some other emotional effects of bullying.
One of them is family disintegration. Family is the most important unit of the community. When a family member is affected by bullying, other members of the family become tense, anxious, and downhearted. Workplace bullying for instance may affect financial stability. Also, if the man in the family is victimized, his workplace may be too stressful. As a result, he may resort into physically hurting his loved ones at home.
On the other hand, due to the stress brought by bullying, the members of the family may no longer be supportive in the long run, thus making the victims feel more devastated than ever. Some serious consequences of bullying to the family are:
- Loss of career
- Loss of livelihood/source of income
Effects on Bullies
Bullying does not bring negative effects only on the victim. It also affects the bullies.
When their intentions or acts of bullying from childhood are not timely addressed, they will nurture the behavior and will victimize more people when they become adults. Studies reveal that children who bully others will carry the same pattern that they will find hard not to live without. Chances are that they will be having criminal records during their adult lives.
Help for the Bullies and Their Victims
Clearly, the society should be able to help both the bullies and the victims. This is the only way to resolve this behavioral plague that already claimed the lives of many people both young and old. Because of the growing necessity to stop bullying, there are now some educators who apply a different approach in training children. It is called empathy training. The goal of this is to train kids as young as 5 years old to put their selves into the shoes of others so they can fully understand what other people are going through.
Finally, parents should protect their children. They can do that in so many ways. First, they can lead a good example to respect other people. They should not nurture any behavior that might resort into bullying attitude. They should also teach their children not to give in to rage when victimized by bullies. By teaching them to keep their cool especially under pressure, they can help their kids to stand for themselves when bullying happens. If possible, as parents you can do role-playing games with your kids. Pretend to be the bully so you would know how your kids will react when faced with the same scenario.
There is no doubt that the effects of bullying can be serious. However, parents, students, schools and local governments have each an important part in helping the society be bully-free. Everything can be done within our means to eventually stop bullying.
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